Coaching Overview
The O Whisperer’s Virtual Bodysex Coaching “Pathways to Pleasure” includes SIX one-to-one video chats with Jacqui focused on self-love, independent orgasm, understanding life-long conditioning, overcoming shame, and deepening personal experiences of pleasure.
Sessions generally run for 45-60 minutes each.
Session 1… Education: vulva styles, internal clitoris, and your pelvic floor muscles
Session 2… Genital Exploration: You will be guided as you
view your vulva
Session 3… The Rock’n’Roll Orgasm Masturbation Technique, vaginal penetration and other masturbation techniques
Session 4… How to Use Fantasy to Increase Your Pleasure
Session 5… What you want. What you need.
Session 6… Check In | How you are progressing
Signing up for Your 1:1 Coaching
1. To sign up to participate in 1:1 Coaching please email jacquichaplin@me.com with your details and when you’d like to commence (subject to availability)
2. Send your sex essay described below to jacquichaplin@me.com we’ll schedule our first session online or in-person.
What You’ll Need
To practice Betty’s ‘Rock ‘n Roll’ orgasm (and other) techniques, you’ll need lubricant, a dildo (Betty’s Barbell is preferred – which can take some time to get to Australia) and a vibrator. I recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand.
(If you’ve not used a vibrator before,
it’s recommended the you purchase one.)
You can use any sort of clean oil as a lubricant (almond, coconut, jojoba or even olive oil in a pinch); I prefer almond oil. And you can use a vibrator you have or pick up a
Hitachi Magic Wand on Amazon.
Here are links:
Almond Oil CHECK /UPDATE LINKS
Rechargeable Magic Wand CHECK /UPDATE LINKS
Betty’s Barbell NEED LINK TO ETSY TO PURCHASE FROM CARLIN
Write Your Sex Essay
The first step in your online 1:1 Coaching is to write your sex essay. Women rarely talk about our sexual past… Yet without framing our past we can’t understand our present or create our future.
You’re invited to write a few paragraphs reflecting on your experiences of the following questions:
• Your thoughts and feelings about sex and pleasure
• Your cultural, social, religious upbringing and influences
• Your parent’s attitude towards sex
• Your first memory of masturbation
• Your first experience of partner sex
• Your current sex life
• Your sex goal – what you desire
When you email your sex essay to me directly, we’ll book a time to commence your 1:1 Coaching. Your essay will be the basis for our conversation during our first video chat.
Before our online chats
Pre-program Reading
Before our online chats start please, read through the sex feature articles below. These articles are written by Betty Dodson, founder of the Bodysex and the links will take you to the Dodson and Ross website.
You’ll gain a better understanding of the female model of sexual response, you’re invited to try the techniques at home, and have your questions ready for our video chats.
Betty’s Rock ‘n Roll Orgasm Technique
Upgrading Your Masturbation Technique
Penetrating Your Vagina for the First Time
A Woman’s Erection Needs 20-30 Minutes of Adequate Clitoral Stimulation
Daily Vulva Massage
In between your coaching sessions, your homework is to do a daily vulva massage.
When we touch ourselves on a regular basis as women, we sensitise our sex organ to stimulation. If you feel too much, you will feel less. If you feel nothing, you will feel more. It can’t be emphasised enough how important – throughout your coaching – of touching your vulva with almond oil and NOT having an orgasm.
When we take the orgasm off the table, we relax and gain a better understanding of what feels best for us – what parts of our vulva are the most sensitive. There are definite erogenous zones but how a woman likes to be touched is different for each of us.
Listen to these Podcasts
Below are two guided audio podcasts – the first is five minutes of breathing to help you transition from the stress of your day to pleasure.
In the second podcast, you’ll be taken you through the basics… have it playing in the background so you can be supported through the process.
Carlin Ross’ Basic Breathing Before Vulva Massage Audio
Carlin Ross’ Vulva Massage Audio
Betty’s Range of Vulva Styles
This is the original artwork of Betty’s ‘Cuntflower’. It is a true homage to the appreciation Betty had for the female genitals.
Viewing Images of Real Vulvas can be a Healing Process.
Art Deco Vulva
This vulva style has minimal, symmetrical labia and an average sized clitoris. The beauty is the sleekness.
Baroque Vulva
This vulva style has curving labia with and bold oval forms. The beauty is the sense of motion.
Classical Vulva
This vulva style is very symmetrical with matching labia. The beauty is the simple lines.
Gothic Vulva
This vulva style has a long, tapered clitoral hood and large clitoral glans like a medieval cathedral. The beauty is the drama.
Modern Vulva
This vulva style is sleek and stylized with labia that flow horizontally. The beauty is the bold lines.
Renaissance Vulva
This vulva style has a long clitoral hood and ruffled labia. The beauty is the flowing drapery.
Dangling Asymmetrical Inner Labia
This Carlin’s vulva. Her clitoral hood is quite long and her right labia is longer than her left labia. She kind of looks like a hooded nun – a cross between a classical and gothic vulva.
Full Inner Labia Prominent Clitoral Hood
This vulva features long, symmetrical labia with go all the way down and around her vaginal opening. It has classical features with labia that are almost renaissance.
Pillow Pussy
This is the rarest vulva style. The outer labia are puffy and the inner labia are sleek – they don’t dangle past the outer labia.
Clamshell
This vulva style features short inner labia that hang inside the outer labia.
Infinity Inner Labia
This vulva style features minimal inner labia that run around the vaginal opening. Notice how her inner labia are dark and her vaginal opening is pink.
Demi-Inner Labia
This vulva style features demi-inner labia that stop halfway around the vaginal opening. Notice how her labia have an hombre shading from mauve to brown
Full Bush/Labia
This vulva style is a perfect example of the renaissance vulva with full, cascading inner labia.
Slim Inner Labia Prominent Vaginal Opening
This vulva style features sleek inner lips – very art deco – with a prominent vaginal opening. Notice how her vaginal opening is a series of folds like a inner rose bud.
Demi Inner Labia Prominent Vaginal Opening
This vulva style features demi-inner labia that are a beautiful shade of deep taupe. Notice how you can see her urethral opening – that slight circular indentation between top of her labia and her vaginal opening.
The Black Orchid
This vulva features very full labia that appear like the petals of an orchid. Notice her long clitoral hood.
Slim Symmetrical Labia
This vulva style is quite symmetrical and petite. Notice the soft pink color in the center of her labia.
The Internal Clitoris
Women Have a
Complex Clitoral System.We Need More Time
to Achieve Orgasm.
Women have a quite complex sex organ. The “clitoris” refers to the clitoral glans – which has 8,000-10,000 nerve endings – but there’s much more. Notice the “legs” and “bulbs” of the clitoris.
The “bulbs” contain erectile tissue – we have just as much erectile tissue as men but our erections are internal. Notice the “clitoral shaft” which is like a rubber band. Run your finger from side-to-side over your clitoral shaft and notice the feeling.
Below, this MRI photo shows the placement of the internal clitoris – the legs run along the pubic bone behind your outer labia and the bulbs are next to them behind your inner labia.
The Combination Orgasm:
Clitoral Stimulation with Vaginal Penetration.
Urethral Sponge
The urethral sponge, sometimes referred to as the g-spot sits on top of the vaginal opening. There is no one spot in the vagina that feels good for all women which is why Betty hated the concept of the g-spot.
The urethral sponge contains prostate-like fluid – about one teaspoon – that is what we call “female ejaculate”. The urethral sponge fills up with fluid to protect the bladder from the friction of penetrative sex.
Female ejaculation is a real response for some women. If you stimulate the urethral sponge and push out with your pelvic floor muscle, a small amount of fluid can be released.
Know that female ejaculation is separate from an orgasm. Betty objected to the focus on female ejaculation because it mimics the male model of sexual response (ejaculation = orgasm). The female model of sexual response is much different and more complex – that’s why we can have multiple orgasms.
Urethral Sponge with Penetration
Below is an example of penetration with fingers that engages the urethral sponge. Insert your fingers – go 2-3 inches inside – and curl your fingers up toward the ceiling of the vagina and rub softly, you will notice a positive sensation. You can do this yourself by using a curved dildo or angling your dildo up toward the ceiling of your vagina.
The positive sensation can travel up and down the urethral sponge.
Notice how the bladder is right behind the urethral sponge and in front of the uterus which is why stimulation can make you feel like you have to urinate.
Engaging Your Pelvic Floor Muscle Increases
The Intensity of Your Orgasms.
Your Pelvic Floor Muscle
Your pelvic floor muscle is vital to your orgasm. When we squeeze and release our pelvic floor muscle (PC muscle) we bring blood into our sex organ.
Below you can see how muscle circles around the clitoris, your vaginal opening and your anus – like an infinity – and the PC muscle is like a sling. To engage your PC muscle, insert your finger into your vagina and squeeze – that’s your PC muscle. Clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration (while squeezing and releasing your PC muscle) can result in multiple orgasms.
Enhancing Your Orgasms
Practice Betty’s Rock ‘n Roll Orgasm Technique
As you practice Betty’s Rock ‘n Roll orgasm technique, have the podcast running in the background so you can be guided through the process and inspire you to keep going.
When we combine clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration AND KEEP GOING, we build the intensity of our orgasms so that we feel greater sexual satisfaction. This technique will also help you have orgasms during partner sex.
Your invited to dedicate 20-40 minutes to the Rock ‘n Roll. You can use the barbell or even a homemade carrot or zucchini dildo (they didn’t have dildos when Betty started the workshops so she used vegetables). The important thing is to combine direct and indirect clitoral stimulation.
This audio podcast has Carlin Ross coaching you through the Rock ‘n Roll. Let it run in the background as you practice your technique.
Have a Sexual Fantasy While Your Masturbate
Fantasy is the heart of the creative process. When we have a dirty thought, we lose ourselves in pleasure – forget about our daily routines and get in to our body.
There are no wrong thoughts. There is no thought police.
Once you feel confident with the Rock ‘n Roll technique, I want you to add a fantasy to your masturbation practice. You can listen to audio erotica if you need inspiration.
The audio podcasts below are fantasies that Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross sometimes verbalise during Erotic Recess during Bodysex Workshops. The women love it and it’s hoped you do too.
Erotic Recess
A ritual of the Bodysex Workshop Experience was called “Erotic Recess” by Betty herself. It can be stimulating to hear other women achieve orgasm. During one of Betty and Carlin’s Erotic Recess sessions, the women wanted to record their sounds so that we could share them with you. You might like to let it run in the background while you self-pleasure.
Bodysex Workshop Erotic Recess Audio
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