Coaching Overview
Jacqui ‘The O Whisperer’ Chaplin’s ‘Pathways to Pleasure’ Bodysex Coaching consists of SIX one-to-one virtual or
in-person sessions focused on education, self-love, independent orgasm, understanding life-long conditioning, overcoming shame, and deepening personal experiences of pleasure. Sessions generally run for 45-60 minutes each.
Session 1… Your Story and Your Owner’s Manual
Exploring your experiences – your story. Education: female sexual anatomy, gendered sexual models; penetration.
Session 2… Genital Exploration
You’ll explore a variety of vulva styles and be guided as you view your vulva.
Session 3… The Rock’n’Roll Orgasm & Other Techniques
You’ll be introduced to and practice a range of masturbation techniques.
Session 4… How to Use Fantasy to Increase Your Pleasure
We’ll explore your attitudes and use of fantasy in your sex life. You’ll be introduced to and explore how fantasy can enhance your pleasure.
Session 5… A Deeper Dive: Choose Your Focus
You’ll get to explore what you believe or want or need to know more about and explore and/or practice.
Session 6… Check In: Your Progress
A couple of weeks after your fifth session we’ll explore where you’re at, what you’ve learnt and how far you’ve come and why might be next for you.
Need to Know More Private Coaching…
Find out more by emailing me your questions.
Signing up for Your Private Coaching…
Get on the Private Coaching Waitlist by emailing me…
To register your interest in Private Coaching (virtual or in person) please email me with your details and when you’d like to commence (subject to availability).
Complete your Sex Essay (described below) and email it to me then we’ll take then next step.
Getting Started… Write Your Sex Essay
The first step in your Private Coaching is to write your Sex Essay. Women rarely talk about our sexual past…
Yet without framing our past we can’t understand our present or create our future.
You’re invited to write a few paragraphs reflecting on your experiences of the following questions:
• Your thoughts and feelings about sex and pleasure
• Your cultural, social, religious upbringing and influences
• Your parent’s attitude towards sex
• Your first memory of masturbation
• Your first experience of partner sex
• Your current sex life
• Your sex goal – what you desire
When you email your sex essay to me directly, we’ll book a time to commence your Private Coaching. Your essay will be the basis for the first part of conversation during our first session.
What You’ll Need For Private Coaching
For Session Two you’ll need oil based lubricant,
For Session Three: To learn and practice Betty’s ‘Rock ‘n Roll’ orgasm (and other) technique, you’ll need lubricant, a dildo (Betty’s Barbell is preferred – which can take some time to get to Australia and other locations outside of the USA) and a wand vibrator. Bodysex’s recommended wand vibrators are listed below.
You can use any sort of clean oil as a lubricant (coconut, jojoba or even olive oil in a pinch); I prefer almond oil. And you can use a vibrator you have or pick up a Magic Wand on Amazon.
Here are links to the items you’ll need for Coaching Sessions:
Almond Oil
Almond Oil
Rechargeable Magic Wand
A rumbly wand is essential for participating in Bodysex Coaching. If you want to purchase one, a variety of Magic Wands for Australia and New Zealand are available.
Betty’s Barbell
Betty’s Barbell is available for purchase from Etsy. On securing your coaching you can request at 25% discount code.
Before Your Private Coaching Sessions
‘Pathways to Pleasure’ Suggested Pre-Reading
Before your coaching starts you might like to explore some sex feature articles written by Betty Dodson, founder of Bodysex. The links are also on the Knowledge and Resources page will take you to the Dodson and Ross website.
Daily Vulva Massage
In between your coaching sessions, your regular homework is to do a daily vulva massage. There are other activities too.
When we touch ourselves on a regular basis as women, we sensitise our sex organ to stimulation. If you feel too much, you will feel less. If you feel nothing, you will feel more. It can’t be emphasised enough how important touching you vulva with your choice of oil is and NOT having an orgasm.
When we take the orgasm ‘off the table’, we relax and gain a better understanding of what feels best for us – what parts of our vulva are the most sensitive. There are different erogenous zones but how a woman likes to be touched is different for each of us.
Listen to Jacqui’s Bodysex Vulva Massage Guide.
